This is a message to all of those who feel alone with their thoughts:
I had given myself two options: let it consume you or talk about it. Luckily, in this situation, I chose the latter.
It’s nerve-wracking to open up to someone. You know, to take down all your walls and allow yourself to be vulnerable. There’s that question of whether you can trust this person, if the subject matter is too overwhelming, how he/she will react, and so on. Your conscience will try to convince you that there’s no need to talk about it or that you’re just being dramatic. I debated for a while, but eventually came to terms with the fact that dealing with it alone was exhausting. I needed to let someone in.
One day I decided I would talk about my internal struggles with someone I felt I could trust. I’m not necessarily friends with this person, but I knew their intentions would be genuine. Finding the words to start the conversation were the hard part. The rest felt like a million tons had been lifted off of my chest. I’d still be walking around with a heavy heart had I kept all of those internal thoughts to myself.
I am telling you that talking about your struggles will help.
Whether you are struggling with your identity, have just lost a love one, feel lost in the chaos of this world, or WHATEVER IT MAY BE- it is worth talking about. It gets you out of your own head, brings realness to the matter, and allows you to hear the battle you’ve been tackling quietly (yet so loudly) in your head. And suddenly you’re not facing the world alone.
I’d like to address that not all people have genuine hearts. So, be mindful of who you share your struggles with. Your situation can easily be affected by the people you choose to open up to. The best thing for your heart is to only share your thoughts with people you feel will love and support you. There are plenty of resources for those of you who feel you have no one to talk to. There are therapists, free hotlines, and textlines at your service.
This post also goes out to people who are concerned for a friend, relative, partner, or whomever. Don’t be hesitant to approach this person. Be there as someone to listen. If you feel you are not fit to do so then ask for help. See if there are any resources available that you can offer this person you feel is in distress. Be there out of the kindness in your heart. There’s a certain level of comfort in knowing that you’re willing to take time to check up on the people you care about.
Even if you don’t have reason to believe that anyone you know is struggling- don’t assume, ask:
How are you?
x
Desiree
