What can you do for someone that wants to kill themselves? What can you say to someone who is on-and-off depressed? How can you help someone get rid of their anxious thoughts?
- Listen to them. Get off of your phone and give them your full attention- this is serious.
- Reassure them. In times like this, your best friend is at their lowest…they’ve lost themselves. Remind them who they are and how much you love them.
- Hold them. Whether it’s an arm around the shoulder, a pat on the back, rubbing their arm, holding their hand, or actually physically holding them in your arms- they’re falling apart. Hold them together.
- Stay strong. Don’t let them push you away, they need you the most right now. Don’t listen to “I’m fine”, “Don’t come over”, or “Nevermind, I’ll see you tomorrow.” Chances are they’re far from alright, they aren’t safe with themselves, and you probably won’t see them tomorrow.
- Try your best to understand. Trying to tell someone that you broke your arm is easy because they can see that. Trying to tell someone why you’re depressed or anxious or just unwilling to live….that’s a mental battle that others can’t see.
- Try not to add to their emotions. Don’t make them feel like a problem that’s too much to handle.
- Don’t doubt yourself. You just being there for them, listening to them, and reassuring them is more than enough. Trust me.
Hi there, I am your best friend.
Many people have asked how they can help me whenever I’m dealing with one of those rough days. However, one person told me recently that they didn’t feel good enough and that no matter what they did it’ll never be enough- this really stuck with me. Because, for anyone, if your best friend is constantly breaking down or having one of those “on-off” days then you just being there for them and still choosing to love them despite of it- means the world.
To my best friend, you are more than enough. Thank you for everything.
Sincerely,
Jessica
